Ask the Expert with Elaine Morrison - Is Your Midlife Mindset Holding You Back
Everywhere I look in our culture the narrative is that menopause is the end, it's awful and your body is out of control. As Byron Katie would ask, "Is it really true?" Or is it a disempowering narrative that's meant to shame women for aging? Throughout our lives women are taught that our bodies are out of control, shameful and turning against us during puberty, pregnancy, child birth and menopause.
The truth is you are not a victim or at the mercy of your hormones. Sadly, women are lacking often basic knowledge about how their bodies work and how best to support and care for our bodies and our wellbeing during the many changes we experience in life.
Symptoms are signals and messengers that something needs to be addressed but often the medical community gaslights, shames and dismisses women. Women are often handed a prescription rather than addressing the root cause.
Often the driver of many of these symptoms is caused by poor diet, too much alcohol, lack of daily movement, stress and stressful thoughts. The truth is as we age we become less metabolically flexible and overly stressed which leads to weight gain, poor sleep, brain fog and many other symptoms. Mindset, nutrition and movement can go a long way to help with these symptoms.
Explore your mindset
When you spend a lifetime rehearsing negative thoughts about your body over and over they become feelings and then over time they become your reality. I notice all over Facebook and Instagram there are groups for women in midlife and what I find is more often than not they are places where misery loves company. Women rehearsing the disempowering beliefs they've been taught about their bodies. They feel like they have no agency over the symptoms they're experiencing.
Do you find yourself caught in a cycle of complaining about the 30+ symptoms of menopause or aging? What if you instead began with an empowering thought and see if anything changes?
- I am safe in my body
- I am worthy of feeling well and having vitality
- I am experiencing a powerful transition in my life
- I am an empowered woman in flow with my body
- I am an empowered woman nourishing my body through mindset, movement and nutrition
- I am an empowered woman with agency over my body
The truth is your body is incredibly powerful. You are innately wired with the gift of intuition, wisdom and inner knowing, you're wired for community and collaboration and you're a creator.
You likely haven't learned to be at home and at peace in your own body. Midlife is an opportunity to befriend your body and to learn new tools to support your wellbeing.
It's time to come home to your body and connect to your true essence. You can thrive in midlife and beyond despite what the cultural narrative tells you. Together we can rise above the noise that midlife is an ending. Getting curious about your mindset (thoughts and beliefs), incorporating movement and eating a whole food diet are powerful steps to feeling vital in midlife and beyond.
What does your body need?
It's time to view your body as a highly intelligent, finely tuned instrument for creativity, pleasure and contribution. Start by listening to what your body needs. For many women taking a momentary pause to ask, "what do I need?" is an act of courage. Do you need?
- connection with a partner, friend or pet
- nourishing food
- kindness towards yourself
- compassion towards yourself
- to say "no"
- to set a boundary
Become empowered about your body and health
What isn't talked enough about is what you can do to change how you look and feel in midlife and beyond. We help women feel better through mindset, nutrition and movement. You deserve to feel good in your body. I know it's possible because I've lived it. I'm here to help you learn how to thrive in midlife and have vitality.
If you're ready to learn more about how you can thrive in midlife through our group coaching program please email [email protected]. We look forward to connecting. Together we go further.
Disclaimer: This content is for educational purposes only. This is not medical advice. Always seek the guidance of your doctor or other qualified health professional with any questions you may have regarding your health or a medical condition. Never disregard the advice of a medical professional, or delay in seeking it because of something you have read on this website or watched in the video.